It can feel like there is a lot of pressure to have sex, especially when you are at a certain age and in a relationship. We assume that all guys must be up for it, and girls get caught in the double standard of being labelled either a slapper or frigid! Sex can – and should be – fun, but only if you are doing it because you want to not because you feel like you have to.

There is nothing wrong with choosing to have sex, but it should be your choice – no one else’s.

Often we find it hard to talk to our partners about what we like or are ready for – instead sex just kind of happens. Take control, think about what you are ready to do and learn to talk to your partner so you know what they are ready to do too.

To find out more visit Respect Yourself and check out the pages on Negotiating Sex, Attitudes to Sex and the Are You Ready checklist.